Yeah, this will be one of those posts by me. You know the type that potentially ruffles some feathers.
So I keep hearing from women (yes, it will seem as if I am generalizing in this) that they need to find a white man, “Girl, you need to get you a white man” from Wendy Williams, to the View, to friends and associates of my own.
I have an issue with this though it actually makes me laugh more than anything else. Find out why….
You see, all men within all races and cultures battle with the same “MAN ISSUES” because we are all wired with the same DNA and chemicals that make us men. Hunt and gather DNA. Pro-create and multiply DNA.
Chemicals in our brain and DNA tends to make us en mass make decisions, have stumbling blocks, and issues that cause us all to similarly be unavailable the way women would like us to be until we grow into men that can surpass those traits and social-conditioning. Is there truth to a man’s race, culture, region etc., helping to craft his personality of course, but to think by dating a white man you will not get a cheater, an abuser, an alcoholic, or a man who sits and plays video games and doesn’t work is share ludicrous. I am not saying that there are not good white men out there, of course there are, why?
Because there are GREAT MEN out there of ALL RACES but the issue ladies is not if you step out of your race or not. The issue is the stereotyping and the unfortunate continued separation that this does in our society. It is no different than a woman looking at me in hopes that a 12″ snake is going to roll out from under my pants bottom and provide some tribal sexual healing simply because I am black. (I do call him Viper, but that’s a story only to be found in my novel:) These projections that we place on people as we begin relationships become some of the eventual impediments to having a healthy relationship. Women if you want a healthy relationship you must all realize that first it begins with you. Deal with yourselves, your self-esteems, your guilt, your resentments, your karma.
Get yourself to a point where you have learned discernment from your god and within. Strengthen that internal radar system which you can do daily so you can push away the rejects and let in the winners. When you are healed and in that place then you will start attracting the types of men you really want, the kings. The kings are ready for commitment and monogamy and building a happily ever after. But from what I see on the outside looking in after so many years with so many smart, loving, and nurturing women is many choose Princes, guys that are not ready for whatever the reason is and women diving in lying to themselves and hoping they can change somebody.
Which represents her not being healed as I mentioned from above, because if you date a prince wanting a king you are clearly still desirous and in need of emotional turmoil and trust me you will get it. So ladies please realize that dating has less to do with the race of a man and more to do with the actions of a man. If you want a great man, a king, then I urge you to get to know men longer. Wait six months before we are given the chance to indulge in your sweet nectar because during that lengthy, usually much much shorter time especially if you live in LA, a prince will most likely run away or show his true self in actions, just like a king would become evident during that time as well. It is to easy to assume that something as amazing and big as love will happen and manifest in your life suddenly just because you choose to date one race or the other.
I do encourage people to date outside of their races in fact the more you do, the more you realize that we all are not that different. Trust me, a major stereotype is that Black women have attitudes, I hate when I hear men say that, because I have dated numerous women from numerous cultures and race’s and I have come to learn that ALL women have attitudes, especially when you do shit to piss them off! Or when they feel like they have bowling balls in their back during that time of the month. In fact I’d dare to say beware the wrath of an Albanian woman’s scorn more so than a Black woman, but again, that story will be in my novel. Ladies, you may wanna start to debate me on this, sure go ahead, but I already know the sweetest of advice as with this is sometimes received as the most sourest of pills when you are not ready to hear it.
Bye for now.